Those who take care of loved ones with dementia can have mixed feelings about the holidays – caregivers may have happy memories of the past, but they also may worry about the extra demands that the holidays can bring.
To make the season more enjoyable, a balance between holiday-related activities and the needs of the caregiver and person with memory loss is what I recommend. Here are some practical suggestions that could help this holiday season:
- Only celebrate holidays that are most important to you and the person with dementia.
- Set your limits and be clear about them with others. Learn to say “no.”
- Involve the person with dementia in simple holiday preparations, or have them observe your preparations.
- Consider simplifying your holidays around the home. Rather than cooking a large holiday dinner, invite family and friends for a potluck. Instead of elaborate decorations, consider choosing a few select items. Having a holiday lunch or brunch can avoid evening confusion.
- Limit the number of visitors at any one time.
- Prepare a quiet room or activity to distract the person with dementia if they become upset or overstimulated.
- Talk about and show pictures of people who are coming to visit.
- Name tags for visitors can be helpful.
- Avoid unfamiliar surroundings and changes in light intensity. Blinking lights may confuse the person with memory loss.
- Caregivers should maintain a regular routine, as much as possible, especially when it comes to keeping a consistent sleep schedule.
- Find time for holiday activities you like to do. If you receive invitations to celebrations that the person with Alzheimer’s or another dementia cannot attend, go yourself. Ask a friend or family member to spend time with the person while you’re out.
The holidays are a time when family and friends often come together. But for families living with Alzheimer’s and other dementias, the holidays can be challenging.
Take a deep breath. With some planning and adjusted expectations, your celebrations can still be happy, memorable occasions.
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